Today, we made a HUGE leap at The Children's Post Community (our Facebook Group)
Here is the post:
Here is the post:
When my son was young, I came out of every single PTM in tears. "Your child is always distracted. He just doesn't listen." "He is not reading at grade level." "He makes no friends at all. He just lives in his own world." "He is always very quiet and withdrawn. He never expresses himself. Is everything ok at home?"
Every single time. For years.
At home, he was a sweet-tempered child who LOVED to talk. He came up with one theory a day (no exaggeration) and he had an opinion about everything!
Why was the school seeing such a different child from what he was at home? What was going on here?
There was no guidance, no support, and most importantly, NO ONE UNDERSTOOD.
So it was sitting and trying to find other parents who were dealing with something similar. Literally, shooting in the dark.
THAT is how I understood the gifted child. Not more intelligent, not more accomplished. Just a very different learning style.
And like a light bulb went off in the head.. yess!! This is why he is perceived so differently by different stakeholders. This is why he does some things at this pace and some other things at that pace.
I know, from interacting with many of you, that some of you have identified this in your children, and some of you are trying to understand.
The support I found was in parenting gifted children - globally. But nothing for India.
So, we are now opening this group to also be a platform where we can discuss gifted children. Please use the #GiftedChild in your post.
Here is what you can do:
A. Talk about accomplishments. It is bragging in the outer world. Here, it is fine. We all get it.
B. Raise issues, if any. If the child is saying something you don't understand, share it here. Maybe one of our kids can explain.
C. Discuss and offer support. Sometimes, even a simple "I get it" works wonders for a parent struggling.
Here is what we will not do:
A. Be judgemental. What worked for you may or may not be the perfect solution.
B. Offer unsolicited advice - YES. Even if you are bursting with it, pls respect the wishes of the poster. Sometimes, all one needs is an ear to listen. Offer advice only when the poster specifically asks for advice.
C. Get personal in your comments. EVERYONE is struggling.
And to get the conversation started, here is what a gifted child (also) means:
SO, if you are a subscriber of The Children's Post, please do join the Facebook Group, which, as far as I know, is the only group that discussed gifted children in India.
Because this is a safe space, at this time, we will open the membership only to our verified subscribers.
Welcome on Board!
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